80 20 rule for dating
Theyʼre trying to find someone whoʼs going to make them feel good.
In reality, the only way a relationship will last past the first date is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give and explore and not a place that you take.
Man is not disturbed by events, but by the view he takes of the event!
– Epictetus For example, the men and women who you are meeting may in fact behave in ways that you find offensive.
So what can we do to create new relationships and improve our existing ones?
Their actions are theirs, you cannot own them, you cannot be them, you can only process them in your mind.
As it turns out, it is our own internal battles that are showing up on the scene, it has nothing to do with our partner.
Although many of us would debate that fact, (I was one of those people when I first got divorced, I was sure all my problems were my ex-husband’s fault), but time and experience has shown me that was not the case.
So the next time you are in a relationship situation, (dating or friendship) and you find yourself having judgments about what is happening, first ask yourself what is going on within yourself and just observe it.
Then you will be able to handle anything your date is doing with more ease and maybe with a sense of excitement and humor.